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The Lifeless Absence Of Affection

Affection [uh-fek-shuhn]

"a disposition or rare state of mind or body that is often associated with a feeling or type of love."

Wikipedia


"fond attachment, devotion, or love: 1. the affection of a parent for an only child, 2. Often affections. a. emotion; feeling; sentiment; over and above our reason and affections. b. the emotional realm of love: a place in his affections." Dictionary.com


"tender attachment: fondness" Meriam Webster



It can be found in a tone of voice, a touch, or a manner of addressing someone. It can be displayed in any number of ways. It causes people to do all kinds of things. It has motivated people to accomplish tremendous things at times and yet, still others have suffered horribly for the want of it. If it's real, it can be priceless and in it's true form it can't be purchased. Shared mutually it tends to act as a binding agent that cements people together and gives life to relationships. Shared singularly, or from only one person in a relationship between people, it can breed heart ache, jealousy or resentment among other things.


Most people tend to thrive on affection and possessing it in its purest form, some are driven by it to serve others selflessly. Lives have been sacrificed because of it and some have endured the unbearable because of its power. But on the other hand, people without any affection can be cold, bitter people who tend to dote on themselves or are withdrawn.


So, why would a man who's past would show him to be a daring, strong, battle scarred rough neck choose to talk about affection? Because by His grace, I've come to realize that we were created because it exists. From the moment our God designed to form us in the wombs of our mothers, it was with the purest affection that He created us and from that moment until the moment of our leaving this earth, we have the choice to answer it.


Affection is a by product of love. Love is who our God is. It's love that created us. So if manly men tend to get squeamish at the thought of those words, they really need to think about it. There are people following our Lod's commandments and tennets because they were told to. If I serve Him only for that reason, then I really have not formed a love relationship at all (remember that God is love). That is an empty form of service - it's called duty and if it were true of me, I would desperately need to repent. If anything, I would have only formed a religion by that kind of service. One possibly motivated out of the fear of what the consequences are if I don't serve Him - it completely misses God's greatest desire that motivated our creation. I would liken it to holding one's hand out to receive the promises of God while holding back the required payment that has to be rendered in order to receive them. In my own mind it's no wonder that some fail to receive what they have such great expectation for. Given the core of the whole of what God has said to us - it only makes sense. If I suffer troubles in my own life, it's due to the complications and consequences of my own actions. Never because God has failed to deliver on a promise that He's made and so anxiously desires to bring to bear in my life.


True love and affection breed loyalty, respect, obedience, and a deepening desire to please toward the object of their focus as they grow. They create growing devotion and cement a Holy relationship with God The Almighty when they are answered in kind. He's given us so many opporunities for us to show that we truly do love and have affection for Him because He desires so deeply for us to succeed. For example: God certainly doesn't NEED our money. What would the holy and righteous God of creation need with such a worthless device of men? But by creating the requirement for tithing, He created an opportunity for us to prove the fruit of what we say. Some may view it as something that somehow provides an opportunity to bless other men. But the truth is that the giver, by following the opportunity to demonstrate their love for God opens the door to the storehouses of heaven just a little bit wider by demonstrating their love for Him in their obedience every time they tithe. His promises remain stored up for each of us until we respond by proving our love and affection for Him and activate those promises reserved for those who will answer with what His heart really desires - to love Him back.


There's proof of the way that these things work in the history of the children of Israel. When they honored His love for them, He blessed them lovingly. When they were unfaithful to His love, they suffered. His promises have always been prefaced with something. If my people will .... If they (you, he, she), then I will... . The truth is that He's already done more than enough to desrve our undying love and affection for eternity. But His promises demonstrate His heart, His desire, born of His unfathomable love for us to do even so much more ... if we will just respond and fulfill His greatest desire.


He loved us first and He loves us most and this first life is an exercise to determine who will respond to His affections and join in right RELATIONSHIP with Him. Anything else completely misses the point and not only breaks His heart but stirrs His jealousy and anger. If our love is the point, and I am wholly convicted that it is, then there are some who are by their own choice, are useless to His objective. I am no ones eternal judge, but I have reason to believe that those are some who might need to be afraid.


What was it that made King Josiah of Judah so worthy of the Bible's honorable mention of Him in the following way?


2 Kings 23:25 NLT "Never before had there been a king like Josiah, who turned to the LORD with all his heart and soul and strength, obeying all the laws of Moses. And there has never been a king like him since."


Likewise, what was the reason that our Father God is fond of Israel's King David even though he bore imperfections? The answer to both was their heart toward God. They answered His love and affection with their own hearts. Both did great things in their service to God, but what cemented the bonds between them and the Father was not their deeds, but the love and affection for their God - The motivation that led them to do the great things that they did. Josiah's heart was broken when he realized the true state of Judah's failures before God ... and he responded not only in word, but proved it by his deeds. David's loving praises in the Psalms were a product of the love and affection his heart held for his God. Though his service was not perfect, his deeds in general proved to our Father the truth of his desire and words.


There are so many many things we can learn from our Lord if we submit ourselves completely to his instruction. But until we've given ourselves to study the whole of His Word and seek the Holy Spirits' interpretation, we may only see part of the picture. Men may choose to argue over portions of scripture and indeed at times in history such arguments have even led to wars. But His word has never changed - only men's interpretations amongst themselves. Sometimes the interpretations of the Holy Spirit require our quiet patience to hear, but the spirit of our Lord is always the same. At times, rather than arguing with one another, our time would be so much better spent selflessly searching the Lord's heart in a spirit of humility and submission. I say this because He hasn't changed and neither have His standards or His teachings and what's most important is whether or not we as individuals respond to HIM according to His hearts' greatest desire. Not whether one or the other is right between us in argument. So if men were to truly devote themselves to truly knowing God's heart well, listening to the voice of the Holy Spirit and following it, there couldn't be much to argue about.


Our affections toward our God are the key to having the life that our Lord God intended for us all along. Without them, we are the ones who suffer and cause His heart to suffer along with us. We in a sense are punishing ourselves and denying God's pupose for our creation. If this is true of you, then please, please, please repent and get it right. You're missing so much and depriving Him of what He so richly deserves and desires. You will NEVER regret it. It's what you were born for. It's the only thing that will fulfill the deepest needs of your heart. I pray God's richest blessings to be on the readers of this writing and the Holy Spirit to be upon you in great measure to speak often to your heart.

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